Saturday, June 14, 2014

The Perfect Father

In this blog I want to share on how to look at GOD as your personal Father. GOD is more then Father as He is infinite but still the Bible does say repeatedly that GOD is our personal Father. The world says everyone is a child of GOD but that's wrong only those who are born again are GOD's children. "But to all who did receive Him, who believed in His Name, He gave the right to become children of GOD, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of GOD" John 1:12-13 ESV. That's why children in foster homes can't just go up to anyone and call someone mom or dad and then be adopted automatically. The parent chooses the child not the other way around. Not many people though respond well when it comes to learning about GOD as their own Father because of how their own fathers treated or mistreated them. A young woman went to a therapist describing her humiliation and hurt from molestation she suffered at the hands of her father, brothers and grandfather. Another young man told a counselor that his parents gave him away to his grandparents simply because they didn't want him anymore. His grandparents in turn put him in an orphanage at five years old where there the director beat him every Sunday if he refused to go to Church. Years later the young man gave his life to Christ and he returned home to his parents to express his love and forgiveness with a gift when his mother saw him she cried out in rage and would not let him enter the house. Another young man shared with a counselor that he could never remember hearing the words "I love you" from his lawyer father. One evangelist was approached by a young man who was willing to give him one chance to share the Gospel with him and the young man asked what GOD is like. The evangelist answered that GOD is like a Father to which the young man answered "is He's anything like my old man you can have Him!" I remember four years ago praying to GOD that He would adopt me and begging Him to be my Father. I remember telling Him that I would be good not perfect but I just wanted a Daddy. I didn't know at the time that GOD was already my Father cause I was a Christian no one had taught me that yet. Even for Christians it is hard to really experience and know GOD as their personal Father. Many times Christians say things like "to me, GOD the Father seems distant. I can't see Him. I can't hear Him. I can't touch Him. I don't feel His love. It's a lot like my dad. He provided for us, but I didn't have much of a relationship with him (GOD)." With divorce rampant and child abuse all over the headlines of today's news it's not surprising that many people respond to the thought of GOD as their Father with anger, resentment and rejection because they have not known a kind, caring earthly father. For some people their earthly fathers died when they were young so a male role model was totally absent from their lives. Some Church's have ministries where male and females become the father or mother figure for those who's biological parents were not their for them. One Pastor even let a full grown woman who he was not married to cry and lean on his shoulder as the woman needed a father figure. One other lady goes to a man for advice and she calls him Papa and he lets her do that. Not every Church does this though because having adult males spending one on one time with adult females can lead to gossip and even though there is nothing going on gossip can really ruin a person's reputation and their lives so if your thinking maybe your Church should do this put it to lots of prayer first.... Weather we have a great earthly father or not the thing about earthly father's is that they are human and can make mistakes and can't always be around. No matter how hard an earthly father tries to be perfect he is going to fall short of perfect. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of GOD" Romans 3:23 ESV. We all need a Father who can literally do anything, who is trustworthy, who is understanding, who is patient, who is kind, who is wise, who is faithful, who is loving, who will always provide for us, who will protect us, who will help us feel and know we're safe and secure, who is always around everywhere and who is always listening to us. Those are very big shoes to fill and there is only One who can fit in them and He is (drum roll please) GOD the Father. "A Father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is GOD in His Holy dwelling, GOD sets the lonely in families, He leads forth the prisoners with singing" Psalm 68:5-6.... "For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by Him we cry, 'Abba, Father.' The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are GOD's children" Romans 8:15-16. When I read the verse in Romans I was confused as I didn't know what Abba meant. Abba is hardly used in common language anymore so I looked up the meaning of the word Abba. Abba is Aramaic it was a term of endearment and would most closely be translated as Daddy or Da-Da or Papa. It signifies the close, intimate relationship of a father to his child, as well as the childlike trust that a young child puts in their "daddy." How do you feel inside when you pray too GOD, calling Him "Father"? Do you feel safe, warm and cared for? Do you see Him smiling with arms open wide to you? (As He's portrayed in The Parable Of The Prodigal Son, Luke 15:11-32.) My Pastor has a young 5 year old daughter and every Sunday morning I watch her run to my Pastor with her arms open and she shouts "daddy daddy daddy!" And each time my Pastor opens his arms and catches her and hugs her never once does he reject hugging her. Never once does my Pastor say he is to busy to give his children a hug. Never once does his daughter approach him with fear or wonder if its ok to run and give him a hug. Each time I see this I am reminded that this  is how we can go to GOD running to Him and He'll have His arms open to us each and every time without fail. We who are saved right now, at this very moment, we are His children. In other words, this is not a promise which GOD will fulfill in the future. No, the truth is we are already GOD's children. We enjoy all the rights and privileges our adoption entails, because we have come to know GOD as our Father. As His children we experience His love and He loves us just as much as He loves Jesus. So how do we respond to this we whose earthly fathers have been absent one way or another? First we must rid ourselves of any misconceptions of GOD we may have. He is unlike anyone who has been, who is or who ever will be there is and never will be anyone like Him. Then we accept GOD for Who He is as He has revealed Himself in the Bible. As GOD's child though its hard for you not to doubt Who He has revealed Himself to be in the Bible because of your personal past hurts of childhood memories, of broken promises and neglect. Perhaps you barely sense GOD around and tend to approach Him with cynicism and distrust. One thing I strongly recommend is Celebrate Recovery. Celebrate Recovery is a free 12 step Christian ministry for any hurt, habit or hang-up and I've seen GOD work miracles in there and He can do the same for you in that program. I also recommend maybe trying a Christian counselor that you trust to talk about your hurts with and help you sort things out. Also please try journaling out your hurts as its a great and helpful tool. And the biggest help of all is prayer tell GOD about your hurts and be honest about how you really feel and ask for His healing... If you have not received Jesus as your Savior yet then please do so now. Don't put it off. "If you declare with your mouth 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that GOD raised Him from the dead, you will be saved" Romans 10:9 NIV. If you have done this congratulations GOD is now your Father and every Christian is your brother or sister so welcome to the family. Please share that you have received Jesus as your Savior with a Christian we love hearing that stuff.... I would like to finish off this blog with words from a song by Steve Green called I Can See. "All at once He walked beside me like He'd been there all along not a stranger but a Father who can sense when somethings wrong. And He answered all my questions and He understood my fears that somehow vanished now that He was here."


Kersti Lou said...

I have to disagree with you when you said that we are all not children of God until we are "born again." In the King James Version of the Bible it talks a lot of us being His children. Here are the references:
Num. 16:22
Duet. 14:1
Job 32:8
Psalm 82:6
Hosea 1:10
Malachi 2:10
Matt. 5:48; 6:9 (also I'm posing a couple of questions with 6:9. Why do we pray "Our Father which art in Heaven" if we are not His children? Say someone prays but has not been baptized. Are they not children of God still?)
Acts 17:29
Romans 8:16
Eph. 4:6
ALL of these scriptures say we are children of God. We are made in His image. I, for one, believe this. He gave us all life. Before we came to this earth, we were with our Heavenly Father. He knows us, is aware of our needs, and is there for us. I firmly testify that He is my Father in Heaven and I am His daughter. Amen.

Jenny Penny said...

Ok hi Kersti Lou. You bring up some good points. Numbers 16:22 "And they fell upon their faces, and said, O GOD, the GOD of the spirits and of all flesh, shall one man sin, and wilt thou be wroth with the congregation?" KJV. This was a prayer of Moses to GOD after Korah's rebellion. GOD had said that He was about to consume the whole congregation because of Korah's rebellion. So Moses was pleading with GOD to not punish the whole congregation because of one man's sin. This verse has nothing to do with GOD being a Father and notice that Moses didn't call GOD a Father because he couldn't do that he simply called him GOD and said that GOD is the GOD of all flesh and the spirits and He is. But just because He is GOD does not automatically make Him your Father you must be born again.

Jenny Penny said...

Deuteronomy 14:1 "Ye are the children of the Lord your GOD: ye shall not cut yourselves, nor make any baldness between your eyes for the dead" KJV. Here GOD is talking about becoming a separate nation from all the other nations. GOD wanted the nation of Israel to be totally unique. Calling them sons of the Lord well GOD did adopt the nation of Israel so He did become a Father to them because He choose them. They did not choose Him so they were born again in His eyes.

Jenny Penny said...

Job 32:8 "But there is a spirit in man: and the inspiration of the Almighty giveth them understanding" KJV. Here Job is talking about how its GOD who gives us the ability to understand anything. Without GOD's help we can't understand anything or have any wisdom at all. So basically Job is saying without GOD we can't learn anything. This verse has nothing to do with GOD being a Father. Psalm 82:6 "I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High" KJV. This is talking about the fall of mankind. When GOD created Adam and Eve and gave them dominion over all the earth. Yet they fell and so now we are under the curse. The next verse 7 goes on to say "But ye shall die like men, and fall like one of the princes." Its talking about the fall and curse of humanity. Before the fall we were all GOD's children but because of the fall now we all must be adopted born again to become GOD's children because sin separates us from GOD.

Jenny Penny said...

Hosea 1:10 "Yet the number of the children of Israel shall be as the sand of the sea, which cannot be measured nor numbered; and it shall come to pass, that in the place where it was said unto them, Ye are not My people, there it shall be said unto them, Ye are the sons of the living GOD" KJV. Ok this verse talks about the children of Israel and that there will be many of them and they were a great multitude of people. Also it is prophesying what will happen cause it says where it was said they were not His people in time it will be said (and it is) "Ye are the sons of the living GOD." Talking about our adoption which has happened through Jesus.

Jenny Penny said...

Malachi 2:10 "Have we not all one Father? Hath not one GOD created us? Why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, by profaning the covenant of our fathers?" KJV. By the question "Have we not all one Father?" They are talking about the children of Israel that GOD chose not the whole world. As to your questions on the Lord's prayer Jesus instructed that to His disciples who asked Him to teach them to pray and since He knew they would be adopted by GOD He said to pray "Our Father which art in Heaven." Those not saved non-believers don't pray. Why would you talk to someone you don't believe exists in the first place?? But once someone becomes a believer is born again then GOD is their Father and they will pray and they can feel free to say "Our Father which art in Heaven." Baptism has nothing to do with our Salvation. The theif on the cross was never baptised yet he received Salvation because of his faith in Jesus. Baptism is just an outward showing of what has already happened on the inside.

Jenny Penny said...

If you were never baptised it does not mean you weren't saved. "That if thou confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in thine heart GOD raised Him from the dead, you will be saved" Romans 10:9 KJV. That's all it takes to be saved to be born again. Nothing more nothing less. Everyone who does what Romans 10:9 says is a child of GOD. But until someone does that they are not born again they are not saved they are not a child of GOD. The verses in Acts, Romans and Ephesians talk about how after GOD adopts us that we are GOD's children and only those GOD adopts are His children. Yes we are created in the image of GOD we mirror Him we reflect Him but this does not automatically make us His children. If it did then GOD lied when He said that Jesus is His Only Begotton Son. To say we are all His children automatically is to say that He begat us and He did not begat us. He adopts us when we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that GOD raised Him from the dead..... GOD bless you.

semitone said...

Well done Jenny