Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Christianity is not synonymous with doormat

There are teachings going around that if you don't agree with someone you don't love them. It also teaches that you are to keep your opinions to yourself unless it agrees with everyone else's opinion. This kind of attack happens to Christian's the most as we are taught in the Bible to love everyone and most people whether they are Christian or not know that the Bible teaches you are to love everyone. It's gotten to a point now as Christian's if we even get angry we are told we are not being kind and loving. It now seems expected of all Christian's to shut up, agree with everyone, and let themselves be walked all over by everyone. Some Christian's are going along with this after all Jesus did teach to turn the other cheek and the Bible says that vengeance belongs to the Lord. So since this is what is happening it's been on my heart to set the record straight....

So first thing's first. Since we are all supposed to be loving it's best to know what love is. So what is love? The Bible says and I quote "love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV. Nowhere in there does it say to never say no or to set a boundary. I don't see that at all, do you? I see nowhere in there that it says to agree with everyone all the time. After all everyone at one time or another can be wrong it happens nobody but GOD knows everything and can be right about everything all the time...

Now I will point out that yes it says love is not easily angered but it doesn't say never gets angry at all. After all, GOD is love and He gets angry at stuff. Remember Jesus GOD's begotten Son and also GOD got angry and overturned tables and chased people with a whip. Yes, that's righteous anger but it's still anger and so anger is not in itself a sin. Anger can't be a sin because Jesus got angry and He never sinned. So it's not a sin to be angry it's what you do with your anger that can be sinful. There are good healthy ways to let out anger such as discussing with the one your angry at why your angry at them, there are stress balls, could also write a letter of what is causing your  anger just vent and when your done tear it up and throw it away, there's also the empty chair therapy where you get an empty chair pretend the one you're angry at is sitting there and give em what for. There are many healthy ways to let out anger and you do need to let out anger as Dr. Sigmund Freud said anger turned inward is depression...

We must also set healthy boundaries and we do need to stand up for ourselves and say no. There is no sin in setting boundaries and saying no. Nowhere in the Bible does it say thou shalt not set a boundary. Thou shalt not say no. It's just not there.  We do need to say no because like I said before no one but GOD is right all the time. Also, it's not just a matter of being right or wrong if someone walks up to you and says "I'm going to steal your identity all that you have and own and I want you to just agree with me and accept that" are you really going to agree and accept that? Seriously? Now that is an exaggeration but the point remains we as Christians need to stand up for ourselves. If we don't stand for ourselves than we have forgotten who we are and who we belong to...

We Christian's are

Children adopted by the most high GOD
Friends of the most high GOD
GOD is the King of kings so that makes us royalty as well
We are temples of the Holy Spirit
We are the light of the world
We are the salt
We are blessed
We are saved
We are loved
We are precious

This list can go on and on but you can look up for yourself in the Bible who you are in Christ...

Also, not only are we to love other's but we are to love ourselves. It's part of the second greatest commandment. "And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as you love yourself" Matthew 22:39 NIV. The second part of that as you love yourself. Remember GOD created us in His image and He loves us so we are to love ourselves and letting people walk all over us treating us like doormats is not loving ourselves. Plus it is loving to correct a neighbor and say no to them. It isn't loving at all to never say no or not correct your neighbor. After all remember Jesus never sinned and yet He did say no sometimes He did correct people and He still does. So that proves my point again that it isn't a sin to say no or set a boundary....

I'm a Christian but I'm nobody's doormat I'm a daughter of the risen King. I do love you but I will say no I will set boundaries because not only do I love you but I also love myself. I may not agree with all of your opinion's and that's ok because you may not agree with all of mine...

Christianity is not synonymous with doormat.